Get out there and flirt!
No matter what you think, to be a great flirt it's not necessary to be
devastatingly attractive, rich, smooth, or good at fluttering your eyelashes.
To
master the fine art of flirting, follow these simple guidelines and you will be
on your way to being the best flirt in town. You should now be confident enough
to try flirting. If you aren't go back and try again.
Give out the right signals
Be
sure, and this is very important, that you give out the right signals. If you
are interested in someone enough to want to take it further than just flirting
then flirt like mad. However if you are flirting just for the fun of it (and
there is nothing wrong with this, most women flirt just for fun) make sure that
any man you flirt with knows this, and that your body language isn't telling
him
otherwise. Also some men, in fact most men, can be a bit on the slow side when
it comes to sensing what a women wants, which may mean you might have to spell
it out for him.
Dress for the eye If you want
someone to approach you it is much easier if you're wearing a conversation
starter (i.e. a badge, a crazy wig.) This will also show that you have a funny
side. If you are trying to attract the attention of the office hunk wear a bit
more make-up and a skirt that reveals a little bit of leg, (but not short
enough
to show your undies.)
Feel good about yourself
A positive outlook is contagious. Feel good about yourself, about what you
wear, about your hair and others will feel good about you.
Get eye contact
Some people
might take offence if you stare at them for a long period of time. Let the guy
know you are trying to catch his eye then when you hold his gaze give a gentle
smile and let your eyes drop to the floor. He won't feel intimidated and he
will
know that you are interested.
Smile This shows friendliness
and self-confidence, which is viewed as one of the most attractive qualities a
member of the opposite sex can have.
Who's watching Walk though a
group of men and have your friends watch to see who is checking you out.
Mingle Walk about and mingle
with people. Get to know friends of the guy you are trying to attract. You
could
even ask them a question or two about the guy. (But don't over do it, you don't
want to sound desperate or too keen.)
Separate yourself from friends Take time out to be
alone for a bit. This will
make you more approachable. Men some times feel awkward approaching a woman
when
she is in a crowd of other women in case of rejection.
Be polite If you aren't
interested in a guy, be polite when you reject him. It takes a lot of courage
to
approach someone so be sure you turn him down in a way that you would
appreciate
being turned down.
Have a conversation starter ready It is no good
approaching a man if you don't
know what you are going to start the conversation off with. You could start
with
a witty line such as "great tie may I buy it from you when you are finished
with
it?" Or you could simply start with your name, but remember to back it up. He
might be just as nervous as you.
Boost his ego A little
flattery never hurt any body. Men have always used flattery on women to get
what
they want so why can't women? This is one of the best ways of flirting. Boost
his ego and you will have him drinking champagne from your stilettos. (Yes
please!). If he has gorgeous eyes, a great head of hair, is well groomed, tell
him. We all like to be complimented. Flattery gets you everywhere.
Be interested
Ask him lots of
open-ended questions. Ask him his interests, what he does for a living (but
make
sure he doesn't think you are only interested in how much he earns). You may
find that you have a lot in common other then physical attraction.
Make the first move A lot of
men find it attractive when a woman approaches them and find it easier and more
relaxing to talk openly.
Don't pretend Don't pretend to
be something you are not, especially if you would like to see the guy again.
Don't lie about your age, don't avoid telling him you have kids or even that
you
wear a wig. When he finds out the truth he may decide that he doesn't want to
take things any further because of a lack of trust.
And finally
Only give out your real phone number if you decide to take things further.
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